How Does She Do It?
I am a mom. I am a wife. I am a marketing professional. I am a singer. I am a songwriter.
I do the laundry. I rescue lost socks. I do the grocery shopping. I cook the food. I do the dishes. I clean. I yell. I give hugs. I have dance parties in my kitchen.
I am the VP of my child's preschool board. I am on the PTO. I am a Civic Woman. I am the entertainment chair of our yacht club.
And I am often asked, "How do you do it?" and the answer is, "I do it because I have to." I do it because if i don't I will lose my mind a little bit each day. Why? Because I love to be in constant motion. Because I strive to make each moment count. Because the creative in me craves the delicate balance between passion and stability while the overachiever lives for the thrill of the next 'win', whatever it may be.
How do these two sides co-exist, you may ask? For me, they are as intertwined as conjoined twins and always have been. I think the artist in me needs a sense of safety in order to create while the do-gooder in me needs the artist to feel purposeful and free.
So I make time for the things that fuel me and try my best not to let something else wither on the vine while doing so. I do this because for me it means the survival of the part of me that tends to take a backseat to the rest of my various personas - notice how my creative self landed firmly at the end of the list in the opening paragraph above?
I also ask for help. A lot. Did you think I was doing all of this stuff alone? I have a team, a family, a support system. These people allow me to keep fuel in my tank and wind in my sails. Without them, those vines I mentioned above would be toast.
I can't speak for others who seemingly do it all. What I can say is that I am fortunate to know many others like me, and I'm pretty sure we are all sitting quietly in awe of each other, wondering how the hell the other one makes it look so effortless.
So let's stop asking "How?" and start saying "Wow!" Wow for being able to multitask and hustle and love and dream and feel all of the feels even when you would rather be anywhere but here.
You rock, and you don't need to know how. You just need to know that you're killing it out there. Bravo, you. Keep doing it all, and remember to cut yourself some slack once and a while. We've got you.